The first time my friend ever said "I love you" to his girlfriend, he blurted it out during sex. If I could find common steps between all the times I got laid, I'd have a reliable system. I've wondered, mid-thrust: What if I miss and hit a pelvic bone? I'd sustain major injury to myself and, depending on how hard I thrusted, I might even hurt her!
What Do Men Think About During Sex? Real Guys Get Honest About Their Thoughts In Bed
Am I attractive enough? Is my penis big enough or hard enough? Am I pleasing my partner? When people engage in this spectatoring during sex, it pulls them out of the moment. It can create performance anxiety, and it can make the experience less satisfying for both partners.
We often try to get inside the heads of our partners, to try and imagine what they're thinking, but it's likely that we don't always get it right. When we spoke to a sample group of male partners about their wives' or girlfriends' body confidence and their answers were moving. Let's be honest, the length of a sex session is most often dictated by how long it takes the male partner to reach climax. While women can have multiple orgasms and just keep going after climax, men can't and so they often feel pressure to keep themselves from ejaculating for as long as possible.
You might think the inside of a man's brain sounds like the buzz of a broken fluorescent lightbulb. Not true. In my humble view, the brain cells of men work like pistons, constantly firing—just like yours. Some of the internal dialogue they produce is quite sophisticated "Why, I detect rosehip and cardamom in this rare Flemmish beer! Sex is one of the simpler moments.